2.2 The power of listening to your body and mind - Jordi Kidsune

Those who see any difference between soul and body have neither. Body and mind are constantly dancing the tango intimately. Have a flowing dance. - Oscar Wilde

The Mind-Body Tango

Have you ever wondered about the connection between your mind and body? How they influence each other and how understanding this connection can help us better understand ourselves and our goals? In this exploration, we will dive deep into the relationship between the mind and the body and how we can use this understanding to make more informed decisions and achieve our goals.

You will discover:

The three systems that govern our minds: the danger system, the hunting system, and the rest & digest system.
How to use physical sensations to better connect with your subconscious and make more informed decisions.
The impact of posture and physical sensations on our mindset and how to use this to reduce stress and improve chances of success.
How to recognize and use the strengths of our three default systems to adapt to the demands of the external world.
The importance of connecting body and mind for a better understanding of ourselves and our goals.

We will explore the relationship between the mind and the body, and how to use this connection to better understand ourselves and our goals.

But how to read your body and mind?

Let's go 🦊

1. How to read your body? Observing your physical sensations to connect with your subconscious

As you walk, take a few minutes to focus on the sensations in your body. Notice the temperature, dryness, and tingling in your right hand. Then, shift your attention to your whole body. You may notice that you feel thirsty, have cold feet, or feel tension in your neck. What sensations do you notice? Don't judge these sensations--just observe them. If thoughts come to mind, notice them without judgment and then calmly return your attention to your body.

Focusing on your body to improve mindfulness and connection to self

Your body is constantly sending messages to your subconscious, and by paying attention to your physical sensations, you can better connect with your subconscious. Try to feel every step you take, focusing on a specific anchor point, like the sensation in your knees or the soles of your feet. If you lose focus or get distracted, gently bring your attention back to your body. Over time, this practice can help you become more in tune with yourself and your surroundings.

Q: What is the goal of focusing on physical sensations in your body?
A: The goal is to better connect with the subconscious by noticing and observing sensations without judgment.

2. Your body is in the lead

A bonus of paying attention to your body is the commitment to your posture. Your mind is like a docile sheep; what happens in your body, he copies almost one-to-one. How you sit, walk (upright, shoulders back and chest out) or stand also influences your mind:

A closed posture (legs crossed, shoulders bent) gives more stress, while an open posture reduces stress.
Develop an open attitude. More positive feelings create clarity in your head.
Finally, raise the corners of your mouth during busy periods more often. Whether you feel genuinely happy, smiling appears to have a solid stress-reducing effect!

Q: How does posture influence the mind?
A: A closed posture can increase stress, while an open posture can reduce stress.

3. How to read your mind

We have three systematic automatisms. Your three default systems, of which you have a natural or grown preference:
1. Hunting system
2. Danger system
3. Rest & digest system (care system)
Learning how to recognize them is vital because then you will know how to apply the strengths or avoid the pitfalls of each one. Each situation requires you to make a choice.
If you learn this, you run your systems and apply the strengths or avoid the pitfalls in any given situation. From this system, you will ask yourself: what does this situation require from me? You adjust yourself based on the reality around you. You can influence your actions and set of capabilities within. You adjust to what the external environment demands. You are swimming with the current. Less energy, more opportunity as a reward from the universe. For example, people will respond better because you adjust to their state of mind. You flow. Remember: be like water.
If you don't learn this, your actions are driven by the systems. You will ask yourself: what do I require from this situation? You will try to adjust reality based on what you want. Which is tricky because you don't have much influence on the external world. This cost energy. You force. In the same example, if somebody is in fear mode, and you talk from hunter mode, they will only shy further away from you.
It is like being a carpenter: you are either a carpenter with a saw, hammer, and glue. Or you are a carpenter who, by default, uses a hammer. Note: you can imagine that being the carpenter in that scenario is not ideal. Nor for the situation/person interacting with the carpenter. Whoever or whatever is behind the grand design might have designed it all just out of sheer joy. Imagine how many silly situations you could witness if somebody's standard response is hammering down all that encounters him (also a bit tragic). Sad and joyful at the same time.
Never let anybody convince you that their path is the right one. We all have preferences, which might change over time, depending on each situation. With this new knowledge, how silly does it sound if somebody says, "you should act from your care system because that is the most enlightened route"? It's like saying, "you should use glue because that is the lightest tool to connect with other things". I do think the care system is the best default mode, as it brings joy and clarity. But sometimes, kids, you just need a hammer.
Note: many in Western society are in hunting overdrive. This is one of the reasons for mental illnesses like burnout. This might result, thanks to the tango dance, in illness in the body. In short: make your care system your default, but learn how to apply these systems based on what the world asks of you. You will know, listen. Or read the next paragraph.

Q: What are the three default systems in the mind?
A: Hunting system, Danger system, and Rest & Digest system (care system).

4. How to read the tango

When are you acting in which system, and how does this translate to your body? The easiest way can be recognized by your inner voice, especially your words. You use short-term words when you are in the hunting and danger systems. Hunt = I will, I want (you are motivating yourself, empowering, fueling for battle). Fear: I must. I don't want this, I find it scary, I duck away (you are protecting yourself, shy away). Care system = I allow, I give myself… (you are kind to yourself).
Do you chew down sweets before you know it (hunting system), or are you quickly startled by a loud noise (danger system)? Do you get angry quickly (danger system) or continuously check the number of likes (hunting system)?
From which system are you reading this text? The danger system (for fear of being hit on your head by someone else or yourself), the hunting system (you want to improve yourself with this book), or the care system (you give it to yourself without having to achieve anything)? Or do the systems alternate? Of course, every reader will have a different answer, just like everyone else looks at a roller coaster ride.
Hear the words of others, witness their behavior and see from which system they act. This is as valuable for you as it is for them: you can better adjust to how to approach and connect with them. The world is your playground.
The hunting and danger systems demand your tight focus of attention (see next step, about focus). They cost mental energy and create stress because something has to get done. This is not bad, but not very sustainable if overdone or if it is never combined with your care system. So balance these systems with your care system for sustainability.
In short: unite 'I want and 'I must' with 'I give/allow myself. Perhaps better understood in the more popular terms: work hard, play hard.

"The body is a reflection of the mind, and the mind is a reflection of the body."

- Jiddu Krishnamurti

5. Learn how to listen

There is no one size fits all, but our system gives clear signals if you know how to listen. This is generally obscured because of the activity of our (thinking) minds and we tend to live very much in our heads. Thinking, worrying, analysing, optimising, bettering etc. All mental.

Fun experiment: try to observe and see how much of the day you actually spend in thought. Thinking is your biggest addiction.

Something not many people realize, is that with thought also comes muscular tension. All in all, the thinking mind consumes tons of energy during the day. The way out of this is to literally become still. Look at sleep. it's the time we restore our energy. The one time we don't think all the time, move all the time, etc. This is the time everything gets a breather and we re-energize.

I'd add to this that the way out of ailments is to not treat the symptoms but to go to the root. The root of our issues often lies much deeper than we initially see and causes many of our habits, patterns, and consequent suffering.

To put it bluntly: we can eat all the food supplements available in the vitamin store, but if your mind is overstimulated (crypto, news, Twitter, Instagram, etc.) and you don't respect the rest you need, you will suffer the consequences. First mentally, then energetically, and ultimately physically.

The root of any issue may be different for everyone. But the way to get at least a glimpse of the root of any issue is to stop, listen and see. Literally, stop everything that contributes to you losing energy. This again is different for different people.

Engagement is key here. To disengage is to relax. Turn off the tv, don't watch the news, limit social activities, stop drinking coffee and alcohol, stop using drugs, drastically reduce your screen time and incorporate anything into your days that helps increase energy. Go to bed earlier, nap in the afternoon, walk, exercise, change your diet (again personal), etc., etc.

In a way, this is treating the symptoms though...

The thing that is missing is becoming aware of our breathing and our thinking minds. Forget what you know about the term 'meditation', just take a moment every day (5-10m to start) to sit with yourself, focus on the breath (breathe deeply first, then relax your breathing with your spine erect) and observe what is happening. No judgment, no rules, no expectations, no nothing, just witnessing.

See if you can feel your system. See if you can observe how the thinking mind does its thing. Again: disengagement.

This is getting long and I'll round up. The sitting and breathing and the change of our patterns and behavior go hand in hand. You'll see that the calmer you become inside, the more you disengage, and the easier it becomes to change habits and for example, sleep better. On the other hand, change the patterns and you will see that sitting and breathing will become easier. It's a vicious circle, but the good kind.

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Q: What is the main message of the text?
A: The main message is that by learning how to listen and become still, we can gain a better understanding of our thoughts and habits, and ultimately improve our physical and mental well-being.

6. ZaZen

Zazen sitting is the foundation of Zen Buddhism. Sitting without judgment, without striving for anything, without a goal. Za means: concentration, understanding the essence of the universe. So Zen is 'simply' sitting. Sitting without a motive, without a goal, without wanting to accomplish anything with it.

Your body is your personal Zen master.
We get the lessons of the body in the right place and time and in the suitable form.
We all have to deal with anxiety, pain, and sorrow sooner or later. And if we really want control at such a moment, then we have to let go of the illusion of control.
It is also important that we stop taking events 'personally'.
When you experience something, try to go beyond the personal look and feel. In this way, you remove the drama and heaviness of events, and you can focus on healing. Just remember that all of your experiences are part of a greater reality. By placing your experiences - both positive and negative - in a broader perspective, you gain insight into their deeper meaning. By looking at it that way, your problems are not just tricky situations you need to get rid of as quickly as possible. But also your opportunities for growth and development.

It is crucial to your health whether you feel at home and safe in your life or not. Whether you are on good terms with the reality of this moment or whether you resist it. The power of emotions and thoughts: when consciousness changes, the body changes. If you

renew yourself by leaving your comfort zone,
replace old frames of mind with new ones
take the trouble to imagine positive developments,
everything in and around you will eventually change.

Every cell in the body knows what the brain is thinking, your mood swings, and your deepest beliefs. Our body is ruled by our consciousness. If that changes, your energy changes and, with it, your body. The new science has now shown that you can even change your genes that way.

What you should remember

Before moving, connect to your center of stillness, motionlessness, and power.
Take the time for this because everything not well anchored in the core will quickly crumble and disappear.
Let go of your expectations, including those about yourself. Instead, allow yourself to merge with the natural rhythm of everything and everyone around you. And then jump when ready, with all of your might.
The so-called path of working on yourself is often no more than a long detour to the now. The true spiritual path does not lead anywhere but lets you "land at the moment" and reflects on who you are in your deepest being.

Q: What is Zazen in Zen Buddhism? A: Zazen is the foundation of Zen Buddhism, it is the practice of sitting without judgment, without striving for anything, and without a goal, with the aim of reaching concentration and understanding the essence of the universe.

Conclusion

In conclusion, by paying attention to our bodies and minds, we can better understand ourselves and our goals, and make more informed decisions about how to achieve them. By learning to recognize and use the strengths of our three default systems, we can adapt to the demands of the external world and flow with the current, rather than trying to force our will upon it. This can save us energy and open up new opportunities for growth and success. Now, let's take it to the next level and explore the powerful concept of flow and how it can further enhance our understanding of ourselves and our goals.

Quiz

What are the three default systems described in the text? A) Survival, threat, and digestion

B) Hunting, danger, and care

C) Social, emotional, and physical

D) Positive, negative, and neutral

Explanation: The correct answer is B) Hunting, danger, and care. The text describes how these three systems are our default ways of reacting to certain situations, and how recognizing them can be vital for making effective decisions.
What is the main benefit of paying attention to physical sensations?

A) Improving posture

B) Connecting with the subconscious

C) Reducing stress

D) Improving mindfulness

Explanation: The correct answer is B) Connecting with the subconscious. The text explains how focusing on physical sensations can help us better understand the messages our body is sending to our subconscious.
What is the main benefit of an open attitude?

A) Reducing stress

B) Improving posture

C) Connecting with the subconscious

D) Improving relationships

Explanation: The correct answer is A) Reducing stress. The text explains how an open posture can reduce stress and how the mind follows the body, so by having an open attitude it can have a positive impact on the mind.
What is the main benefit of recognizing and utilizing the default systems?

A) Improving posture

B) Reducing stress

C) Making effective decisions

D) Connecting with the subconscious

Explanation: The correct answer is C) Making effective decisions. The text explains how recognizing and utilizing our default systems can help us make effective decisions and navigate different situations.
What is the main benefit of adjusting to external realities over trying to change them?

A) Saving energy

B) Improving relationships

C) Reducing stress

D) Making effective decisions

Explanation: The correct answer is A) Saving energy. The text explains how adjusting to external realities rather than trying to change them can save energy and provide more opportunities as a reward from the universe.

How to apply this in your life today

In our daily lives, we often divide our time into different tasks and responsibilities, such as work, family, and personal time. But have you ever stopped to think about how this division may be affecting your happiness and well-being? The key to feeling content and fulfilled is to want what you have, rather than constantly striving for something more.

One way to shift your perspective is to reframe your to-do list in a positive light. Instead of viewing tasks as "must-do's," try to see them as things that you "allow" or "give" yourself to do. For example, instead of saying "I must pick up the kids from school," try saying "I give myself time to pick up the kids from school." This small adjustment can make a big difference in how you approach your daily tasks.

To deepen your understanding of this concept, try asking yourself the following questions:
- Can you distinguish between the different systems in your body that help you handle danger, hunt for food, and care for others (e.g. the hunting system, the danger system, and the care system)?
- Do you know which system you tend to rely on automatically when faced with different situations?
- Has your awareness of your bodily sensations improved? Can you identify your stressors and the effect they have on your body?
Over the next week, pay close attention to both pleasant and unpleasant events in your life, and focus on the physical sensations they create in your body. Try to name these sensations (e.g. prickling, shivering, numbness, sting, or warmth) and return to them whenever your thoughts start to wander. This will help you develop a greater sense of mindfulness and awareness.

Additionally, try to recognize and acknowledge stress at an early stage, by being alert to physical sensations such as knots in your stomach, headaches, or tingling. Identify the stressors in your life and understand how they affect your body. And remember, it's okay if you notice stress patterns in yourself – this is actually a good thing, as it offers an opportunity to practice mindfulness and breathing exercises. With time and practice, you can learn to manage stress in a healthy and productive way
Homework Assignment:
1. Take a few minutes each day to focus on your physical sensations while walking. Pay attention to the temperature, dryness, and tingling in your right hand, then shift your attention to your whole body. Notice any sensations you may have, like thirst, cold feet, or tension in your neck. Don't judge these sensations, just observe them. If thoughts come to mind, notice them without judgment and then calmly return your attention to your body.
2. Start a journal to document your observations and any insights you have about your body and mind. Write down any physical sensations you notice and any thoughts or emotions that come up.
3. Experiment with different postures throughout the day. Start by sitting up straight with your shoulders back and chest out, then try crossing your legs or hunching forward. Notice how different postures affect your mindset and stress levels.
4. Practice smiling more often, even if you don't feel happy. Notice how it affects your stress levels and overall mood.
5. Reflect on your daily experiences and observe which of the three systems of the mind you tend to rely on the most. Try to recognize when it's appropriate to use each system and how to use them in a balanced way.
6. Take some time each day to set a goal or intention for the day and be mindful of how your body and mind respond to it.
By completing this homework assignment, you will be able to better understand your body and mind, and how they interact with each other. This will help you to make more informed decisions and achieve your goals more efficiently.

Food for thought

How do our thoughts and emotions impact our physical health? Can we control this connection or is it beyond our control?
Can we train our bodies to respond differently to stress? If so, how?
How do you define "flow" and how can we achieve it in our daily lives?
How can we balance the use of our three default systems in order to achieve our goals?
How can we apply the concept of mindfulness to our professional lives?
What is the role of posture in our mental and emotional well-being?
Can we use the mind-body connection to improve our performance in sports or other physical activities?
How does the gut-brain connection impact our overall health and well-being?
How does the current understanding of the mind-body connection differ from traditional views?
What are the ethical implications of manipulating the mind-body connection?

Expand Your Understanding

"The Mind-Body Connection: How the Thoughts You Have Affect Your Physical and Emotional Health" by Dr. Andrew Weil - This article discusses the connection between the mind and body and the impact of thoughts and emotions on physical and emotional health. https://www.drweil.com/health-wellness/body-mind-spirit/stress-anxiety/the-mind-body-connection/
"The Power of Mindfulness: How to Use It in Your Daily Life" by Dr. Ellen Langer - This article explains the benefits of mindfulness and provides tips for incorporating it into daily life. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/mindfulness-in-frantic-world/200902/the-power-mindfulness
"The Relaxation Response: How to Relax and Improve Your Health" by Dr. Herbert Benson - This article explains the physiological response of the body to stress and provides techniques for inducing the relaxation response. https://www.health.harvard.edu/staying-healthy/the-relaxation-response
"The Mind-Gut Connection: How Your Emotions Affect Your Digestion" by Dr. Emeran Mayer - This article explores the connection between the gut and the brain and how it impacts digestion and overall health. https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/the-mind-gut-connection-how-your-emotions-affect-your-digestion
"The Body-Mind Connection: How Our Thoughts Affect Our Health" by Dr. Deepak Chopra - This article discusses the connection between the mind and body and the impact of thoughts and emotions on physical and emotional health. https://www.chopra.com/articles/the-body-mind-connection-how-our-thoughts-affect-our-health