the irony of radical trans-exclusionary feminism is that just as it uses the language of love, vulnerability or radical tenderness among women, the separatism that claims to protect from its invasion ends up invalidating the suffering that exists in our individual struggles, and returns to the idea that our bodies are what really define our social differences

since the subject of the movement is women, questioning what we naturally understand by "women" is prohibited. you do not have to justify aggression or question any behavior towards people who have a penis or a skull with masculine characteristics. they pervert the intention of seeking respect for our identity by alluding to the "erasure of women" despite the fact that we have the courage to unlearn the (violent) codes of masculinity that were and continue to be projected onto us

they allow themselves to exclude people whom they act from love. they abandon self-criticism and turn the critical object into something very difficult for us trans people to change: our body

there is a disconnection between what is said and what is done. it is no coincidence that the conversations of TERFs that apparently seek to befriend trans women can tend towards passive-aggressiveness. we are viewed with suspicion and they can take advantage of the fact that trans women may seek validation in female socialization

if there is something that these people do is to break with radical tenderness by dividing the pain that informs us what to tackle to be free as individuals. that is easier than acknowledging we also chain others with our beliefs

the boundary that i set with her, unlike the one she promotes politically, comes from love