1.2.3 A bit about happiness - Jordi Kidsune

"The greatest happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved; loved for ourselves, or rather, loved in spite of ourselves”

- Victor Hugo

Welcome to chapter 1.5, where we will dive deeper into the topic of happiness. You may have heard that happiness is a state of mind, and that it's something you can create for yourself. But, how exactly do you do that? You will discover:

The 90:10 ratio of happiness and how much is determined by your internal state of mind.
The four circuits of happiness, including attention, resilience, positivity, and altruism and how they can be trained to boost your overall happiness.
The four archetypes of happiness, and how they pertain to your life attitudes and the pursuit of happiness.
A quick trick to witness the power of happiness in your life, and how it can open up new possibilities.

Join us as we explore these key components and discover new ways to create your own happiness.

1. What is success?

Success and Happiness: A Journey to Personal Mastery

Have you ever taken a step back and really pondered what success and happiness mean to you? Sure, the dictionary might say that success is a positive outcome and happiness is a feeling of joy, but there's more to it than that. When I talk about success, I don't just mean the conventional definition of success in business or finance. And when I mention wealth, I'm not talking solely about money or material possessions. Money definitely has its place in making life comfortable, but true wealth can also be found in freedom, wisdom, inner peace, meaningful relationships, and spiritual enlightenment.

As for happiness, the dictionary says it's about good fortune and feeling blissful. But for me, my quest for success and happiness is intertwined with my pursuit of wisdom. At first glance, these three things may seem disparate, but I've realized that they all stem from a common source and mentality. The path to wisdom and happiness is spiritual, steeped in centuries of tradition and teachings.

Take the Buddha, for instance. He taught that our happiness doesn't rely on what we own or our social status. Instead, it's tied to our thinking and life energy. He also warned against desire, which he believed was the root of suffering. To be happy, we must desire less, be more mindful, and strive less. Achieving balance between our physical, spiritual, and material worlds is the key. This means taking care of our bodies, cultivating a clear mind, and turning our intentions into actions.

On the other hand, Napoleon Hill believed in persistence as a means to achieve one's goals. In contrast, the Buddha taught letting go. These two philosophies may seem at odds, but they actually have a lot in common. Both encourage pursuing what you love, following your heart, and living from your inner desires and passions. The common denominator is the mind and spirit.

According to Buddha, we are a reflection of our soul and spirit. Our thoughts shape our existence, and our imagination creates our reality. We become what we truly believe, not just what we hope or wish for. James Allen echoes this idea in his book "As a Man Thinketh." He explains that we don't attract what we want, but what we are. In other words, if you want to be successful, you must first believe that you are successful.

This realization was a game-changer for me. I was a millionaire in my thoughts and beliefs long before I became one in reality. The same goes for athletes. No one wins a gold medal unless they first see themselves as champions. It's not just a desire or a wish, but a deep conviction that makes all the difference. Every action and feeling stems from a thought, and as James Allen says, a person is essentially what they think, and their personality is the result of their accumulated thoughts.

In my new book, "You Are As You Think," I've combined and updated James Allen's "As a Man Thinketh" with "The Science of Getting Rich." The book is part of my Mastermind Academy, where I'll share my insights on success, happiness, and personal mastery. This course isn't just about business and money (although, let's be real, you'll love the lessons on those topics too). It's about the art of living, reaching your goals, and making your dreams come true.

Most importantly, I want to take you on a spiritual journey of self-discovery and consciousness. After completing this course, I hope that you'll be able to design your life as you please, making the most of your spaces, whether it's your home, office, or any other area. You'll learn the principles of interior design, such as color theory, texture, and space planning, and how to use them to create functional and aesthetically pleasing environments. The course will also cover various design styles and how to mix and match different elements to create a unique look. You'll learn about lighting, furniture selection, and accessorizing, as well as how to choose the right accessories to complement your design. And by the end of it all, you'll be equipped with the skills and knowledge needed to tackle any interior design project with confidence.

Think of it as a journey to decorate not just your physical spaces, but your life as well. To truly achieve success and happiness, it's not just about what's on the outside, but what's on the inside too. That's why this course is a combination of not just interior design principles, but also personal development and mindfulness. It's about finding balance, not just in your designs, but in your thoughts and actions.

This is an epic adventure, folks. And I'm excited to be your guide on this journey to personal mastery. So come along and let's embark on this journey to success, happiness, and a beautifully decorated life.

2. A bit about happiness

The essence of happiness is feeling at home in one's own mind. Being content with who I am and what I have at this moment (now), while having a relaxed desire for growth and development in the future.
So a better world starts in your head.
A Harvard study shows that only 10 percent of long-term happiness can be derived from the circumstance. That means that no less than 90 percent lies within yourself. Sonja Lyubomirsky, one of the best-known happiness scientists, also arrived at this 90:10 ratio. She also established that about 50 percent of your happiness is fixed at birth. And that no less than 40 percent is determined by your internal state of mind.
So a better world starts in your body and head. As you will later learn, most recent research has shown you can reform your body and even your DNA with your mind. Hence, once again: a better world starts in your head
Do I always need to be happy and always get my way? No, maybe happiness isn't about getting your way at all. Perhaps it has more to do with how you handle the waves of joy and sorrow. Perhaps happiness is the ability to be happy with the happy things and sad with the sad things
Even in extreme circumstances, your point of view determines how happy you are. Neurologist, psychiatrist, and concentration camp survivor Viktor Frankl wrote in his book 'the meaning of existence' about how differently his fellow inmates dealt with the more than appalling conditions. Because one thing cannot be taken away from man: the freedom to express his own attitude in every situation.

Flashcard question: Q: What is the essence of happiness? A: The essence of happiness is feeling at home in one's own mind, being content with who I am and what I have at this moment (now), while having a relaxed desire for growth and development in the future.

2. The four circuits of happiness

Richard Davidson - the happy brain: four circuits are responsible for happiness:

Attention - our ability to maintain focus; a distracted mind is an unhappy mind
Resilience - our ability to recover quickly from negative moods
Positivity- our ability to create and nurture positive emotions and thoughts
Altruism - our ability to give unconditionally; generosity

These circuits can operate independently from each other. You can be good in one, terrible in another. You can train these circuits, and you can boost happiness through training. And while it may not always be easy to find happiness and contentment in yourself, it is impossible to find it anywhere else. Happiness is an inside job. The mind creates its own place and can turn heaven into hell, from hell into heaven.

I will focus on each one during this Quest, we will find them in other steps of your journey.

Flashcard question: Q: What are the four circuits responsible for happiness according to Richard Davidson? A: The four circuits responsible for happiness according to Richard Davidson are: Attention, Resilience, Positivity, and Altruism.

3. The four archetypes of happiness

Harvard psychology professor Tal Ben-Sahar distinguishes four mindsets or archetypes concerning life attitudes and the pursuit of happiness. They are based on whether you are chasing profits and, if so, which ones:

Balance the now with the future. Watch with both eyes and 100% of your focus at the next step, but while also watching the horizon. To feel and reconcile your future in the present. It is possible and I’ll show you later how this can be done.

Flashcard question: Q: What are the four mindsets or archetypes concerning life attitudes and the pursuit of happiness according to Harvard psychology professor Tal Ben-Sahar? A: According to Harvard psychology professor Tal Ben-Sahar, the four mindsets or archetypes concerning life attitudes and the pursuit of happiness are: balancing the now with the future, chasing profits, and which ones.

4. A quick trick to witness the power of happiness in your life

Happiness allows you to see and feel more possibilities, as you open. An exercise to witness this for yourself.

Go to a news website and read some bad news about topics that affect you. Let the message really sink in. Connect with the feelings that make you feel sad.
Then make a list of solutions to the traffic jam problem in 3-5 minutes. You don't have to pitch them on national tv, so your ideas can be weird and impracticable.
Take a short break.
Think about a pleasant moment in your life that automatically makes you smile for a few minutes. Enjoy the emerging feeling, feel the joy and warmth.
Then see if you can expand the list of solutions for the file problem.

Chances are, new ideas came to you. Negative emotions constrict attention, your mindset narrows. Negative emotion is like a water lily closing to the dark. The hunt-or-danger systems are at work. Positive emotion is like a water lily that opens to the sun. The rest & digest system gives space to your attention and broadens your mindset (broaden aspect). Even at the micro level, this aspect exists: cells grow with positivity, while negative emotions generally inhibit cell growth.

You hold the power to create or destroy within.

Flashcard question: Q: What is the exercise to witness the power of happiness in your life? A: The exercise to witness the power of happiness in your life is to go to a news website and read some bad news about topics that affect you, let the message sink in, and connect with the feelings that make you feel sad. Then, make a list of solutions to the problem in 3-5 minutes and take a short break. Think about a pleasant moment in your life that automatically makes you smile for a few minutes, enjoy the emerging feeling, and see if you can expand the list of solutions for the problem.

5. Positivity ratio

Positive emotions reduce or prevent the harmful effects of negative emotions; this is the so-called undoing effect (source https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/026999398379718). Training in positive emotions, for example, is beneficial for depressive symptoms. But not only the absolute number of positive emotions you experience is essential. Also, the ratio of the number of positive emotions to the number of negative emotions: your positivity ratio. The higher that ratio - the more uppers to downers - the more you feel like you're thriving.

On average, people have a positivity ratio of 2:1 (two positive emotions to one negative). You usually function in this state of mind. The tipping point is 3:1, then comes the feeling of flourishing. In relationships, this point is at 5:1. It takes five fun, happy, or connecting moments versus one negative to experience the friendship or relationship as flourishing. For teams, that ratio is even 6:1. These ratios have come under fire mathematically, but the hypothesis that people with a high positivity ratio thrive remains (source https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/026999398379718)

Flashcard question: Q: What is the positivity ratio and why is it important for happiness? A: The positivity ratio is the proportion of positive to negative emotions that a person experiences. Research has shown that a ratio of 3:1 positive to negative emotions is associated with optimal well-being and happiness. The importance of the positivity ratio lies in the fact that it helps to balance negative emotions and promote overall well-being and happiness.

6. How to supplement the positivity ratio

By weakening (the impact of) negative feelings. For example, through compassion training.
Experience positive emotions for longer.

Rick Hanson is a neuropsychologist and author who has written extensively on the topic of well-being and emotional balance. In his book "Be Home," Hanson offers various tips and exercises for cultivating positive emotions and reducing the impact of negative ones. Some of these include having a positive experience, enhancing it, and installing it in your mind. Additionally, he suggests practicing compassion and mindfulness, as well as engaging in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment. By adopting these practices, you can improve your emotional well-being and foster a greater sense of happiness and contentment in your life.

can you give more examples exercises from this book be home

Sure! Here are some examples of exercises from Rick Hanson's book "Be Home" that you can try to cultivate positive emotions and reduce the impact of negative ones:

The "Three Good Things" exercise: Every day, take a few moments to write down three good things that happened to you. These can be big or small, but they should be things that you are grateful for or that brought you joy. Take time to savor each one and really allow yourself to feel the positive emotions that they evoke.
The "Soothing Breath" exercise: Sit in a comfortable position and take a few deep breaths. As you inhale, imagine that you are breathing in calm and peace, and as you exhale, imagine that you are releasing any tension or stress. Continue to breathe in this way for a few minutes, focusing on the sensation of the breath and letting go of any thoughts or worries.
The "Loving-Kindness" meditation: Sit in a comfortable position and close your eyes. Bring to mind someone you care about, and silently repeat phrases of loving-kindness to them, such as "may you be happy, may you be healthy, may you be at peace." Then, bring to mind someone you don't know well, and repeat the phrases to them. Finally, bring to mind yourself, and repeat the phrases to yourself. As you do this, try to feel the warmth and compassion that these phrases evoke in you.

Here are some additional examples of exercises from Rick Hanson's book "Be Home" that focus on practicing compassion and mindfulness, and engaging in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment:

The "Compassion Break" exercise: Take a few minutes to focus on your breath and let go of any thoughts or worries. Then, bring to mind someone you care about who is struggling or in pain. Imagine what they might be feeling and send them a sincere wish for their well-being. You can silently repeat phrases of compassion to them, such as "may you be free from suffering, may you find peace and joy." As you do this, try to feel the warmth and compassion in your heart.
The "Mindful Eating" exercise: Choose a simple, familiar food that you enjoy, such as a piece of fruit or a small snack. Take a few moments to focus on your breath and let go of any thoughts or distractions. Then, slowly and mindfully eat the food, paying attention to its appearance, texture, and taste. Notice any sensations or emotions that arise as you eat, and try to let go of any judgments or expectations. Simply be present with the experience of eating.
The "Self-Care" exercise: Take some time to think about activities that bring you joy and fulfillment. This could be anything from going for a walk or listening to music, to spending time with friends or engaging in a hobby. Make a list of these activities and try to incorporate at least one of them into your day every day. As you engage in these activities, focus on the present moment and let go of any thoughts or worries. Allow yourself to fully enjoy the experience and feel the positive emotions that it brings.

The important thing is: which emotions do you need right now? Every need you feel falls under one of the three core needs: security (avoiding harms), contentment (approaching rewards), and connection (attaching to others). Only when you know where your shortage is you can start replenishing.

Table 'connecting some antidote experiences with negative material' (original source: Rick Hanson)

How to enhance the experience? From Rick Hanson - Be Home

Have a positive experience (small or big)
Enhance the experience and enrich it - give the guest a seat. Open fully and hold for 10 to 15 seconds longer than usual, focusing mainly on your senses; that makes the experience more intense. Also, explore new insights during this step, especially those that make the experience personally relevant to you. This will make the experience more memorable. The answer, the different view or the new perspective, only comes in when you stop and magnify the experience.
Install the positive experience - let these lands in your mind. Then, visualize embedding or storing the experience in your heart with ctrl-S. You may feel the positive experience flowing through your body or imagine your brain putting on its wool sweater for this. Find an image that helps you. The more intensely you experience emotions in your body, the more deeply they become embedded in your brain. Hold this step for 15 to 20 seconds.
Sometimes negative memories arise unsolicited and without function. Then letting go is difficult. But did you know that you can overwrite a negative memory with a positive experience? Neurons that wire together fire together. In this step, you link the negative experience to a positive experience. In this way, you recognize the fear and helplessness, acknowledge woodiness or sadness, and no longer let yourself be carried away. Instead, you bring in the welcome guest and put them in the spotlight. Hold this for 15-20 seconds.
Realization: the little things in the little moments. They aren't little.

Flashcard question: Q: How can we supplement our positivity ratio to promote happiness? A: One way to supplement the positivity ratio is to focus on positive experiences and emotions. This can be achieved through practices such as gratitude journaling, mindfulness meditation, and spending time with loved ones. Additionally, engaging in activities that bring joy and fulfillment can also help to supplement the positivity ratio.

https://www.rickhanson.net/be-home/

7. How to make your own happiness

No matter what your life looks like right now or how far you are from the blueprint you thought you should follow, you can still create your own happiness. Here are 10 tips to help you get started:

1. Do what you love

It’s nearly impossible to find your own happiness when you spend eight hours a day doing work you are not passionate about. If you’re unhappy at work, it’s time to find a new job or a completely new career. Even if that means going back to school or taking a pay cut, it will be well worth it to follow your passion.

2. Stop comparing

Your life is not like anyone else’s, which is why you need to find your own happiness rather than relying on others to tell you what happiness means. Stop comparing yourself to others because you never know what’s truly going on behind closed doors. Get off social media, stop looking at what everyone else has that you don’t and focus on what truly brings you joy.

3. Make a list

When we’re feeling down, it can be difficult to remember what has made us happy in the past. Next time you do something that brings you joy, add it to a list. Then, the next time you need a mood boost, look at the list and choose one of the activities.

4. Be around those who bring you happiness

It can be tough to make your own happiness when everyone around you is miserable. Proximity is power – you will eventually rise to the level of those you spend the most time with. Choose positive, supportive people to be in your inner circle and you will be much more likely to find your own happiness.

5. Adopt a gratitude mindset

Whether you’re looking for the good or bad in any situation (or person), you’re likely to find it. To create your own happiness, you need to constantly look for the good and be thankful for it. This simple shift in mindset will improve your mood, your relationships and your success.

6. Do something for others

There’s a reason why Tony says “The secret to living is giving.” Giving your time, talents or money to others feeds your soul in a way nothing else does. Whether you volunteer at a homeless shelter, bring a grieving friend a homemade casserole or give a compliment to a stranger, you can create your own happiness by making others happy.

7. Always have something to look forward to

Knowing there is a reward in the future helps you get through even the most stressful situations. Make your own happiness by scheduling upcoming lunch dates with friends, mini vacations or relaxing massages.

8. Create experiences

Once you truly know what brings you joy, enhance it by experiencing it with others who share your version of happiness. This might mean joining a book club or getting involved in a philanthropy group. Having pleasurable experiences with others creates meaningful connections and helps you more deeply enjoy activities you love.

9. Know when to say no

Developing healthy boundaries will help you find your own happiness without letting others dictate it for you. Before saying yes to requests, think about if it’s something you really want to do or if it aligns with your values. If it doesn’t, politely decline.

10. Take time to yourself

You can’t create your own happiness when you don’t know yourself deeply. You need regular “me time.” A weekly warm bath, a night in with a favorite movie or a regular yoga class will help you stay connected to your inner needs and give you the energy you need to give to others.

When we let go and follow our pull of passion, we open up the space for happiness. We realize that life is not happening to us, it is happening for us. When you reach this realization, you have achieved the mindset shift that will allow you to create your own happiness. You will realize your path has become clearer and obstacles have fallen away. And most importantly, no matter what happens in life, you are always more than that moment – and more than the story you have created. How will you make your own happiness?

Q: What are some tips for creating our own happiness? A: Some tips for creating our own happiness include: doing what you love, stopping comparisons, making a list of things that bring you joy, being around those who bring you happiness, adopting a gratitude mindset, doing something for others, always having something to look forward to, and taking care of your physical and mental health.

8. A powerful lifehack for happiness: gratitude

Gratitude is one of the most effective and powerful happiness strategies because it evokes many positive emotions.

Gratitude helps you enjoy beautiful moments more and makes the dull-everyday more sparkly.
Gratitude motivates and empowers action in yourself and in others. It makes you more energetic and stimulates positive emotions.
In addition, gratitude increases your coping skills in difficult situations.
Grateful people do not ignore the difficulties in life but choose to highlight the positive sides as well.
Gratitude also encourages prosocial behavior, such as giving and showing compassion.
Gratitude is the medicine against social comparison and the accompanying destructive emotions such as jealousy.
Finally, it reduces the chance that you will become depressed, lonely, and anxious.

What are you grateful for in your life? See if you can think of something small or big for each finger of your hand that you are grateful for. You can do gratitude at any time of the day.

If you find yourself complaining or grumbling, follow up the thought or statement with "and" and immediately add something for which you are grateful. This is also fun to do with others.

Q: How can gratitude be used as a powerful lifehack for happiness? A: Gratitude has been shown to be a powerful tool for promoting happiness as it shifts focus towards the positive things in life. Practicing gratitude through journaling, writing thank-you notes, or simply reflecting on the things you are thankful for can help to increase feelings of well-being and happiness.

9. Buying happiness?

https://www.tonyrobbins.com/wealth-lifestyle/how-to-buy-happiness/

The article discusses the relationship between money and happiness, stating that while the correlation between the two is not as drastic as one may think, money does bring happiness if used correctly. A study by Princeton University in 2010 found that the change in happiness is seen up to $75,000 in annual income, after which the level of happiness evens out. The article suggests that this amount of money gives a sense of financial freedom, allowing one to enjoy life instead of worrying about how to provide for oneself. The article also suggests that low income intensifies the emotional strain of life's challenges, causing compounded pain from financial insecurity. The article goes on to suggest that one way to use money effectively is to spend it on others and witness the impact, and to spend it on experiences rather than material things.

3 ways to spend money that will actually make you happier

Spend it on others – and witness the impact
Spend it on experiences
Buy back your time

On your journey to financial freedom, be sure to cultivate gratitude. One of the main reasons that collecting more things doesn’t make us happy in the long run is because we adapt quickly to it. Sonja Lyubomirsky, psychology professor at UC Riverside, says,” If you have a rise in income it gives you a boost, but then your aspirations rise too…You’ve stepped on the hedonic treadmill. Trying to prevent that or slow it down is really a challenge.”

10. A bit of guidance along the way: create a fulfilling life

"Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions."

- Dalai Lama

Learn how to thrive, not just survive.

Feeling down and questioning what's missing in your life? Searching for a way to feel fulfilled and content? Going through a tough time and don't know how to navigate it? We've all been there. Happiness isn't just about reaching a certain level of success or achieving a specific goal. Sure, these things can contribute to a fulfilling life, but they may not provide the deep sense of satisfaction you're seeking. The good news is, there's no secret formula for happiness. It's about taking care of your body and mind, focusing on the needs of others and learning from those who have already walked in your shoes. And remember, what works for one person may not work for another. Creating ground rules for a happy and fulfilling life is a personal and dynamic process. In this chapter, we'll share examples of ground rules that have worked for us, but remember it's up to you to find what works best for you and make it a part of your daily routine. Let's build meaningful experiences and start feeling happy together!

Be kind

Be kind to yourself and others. Understand your emotions and those of others, compassion is the key to success. Start with compassion for yourself, only then will you be capable to take care of others. Even if you fail, or if all you do is for naught, you have at least spread kindness in your life and that of others.

Here are a few ways to be kinder to others:
1. Practice empathy and try to understand others' perspectives. This can help you connect with them on a deeper level and respond to their needs in a more compassionate way.
2. Be a good listener. Give others your full attention when they are speaking and try to really hear what they are saying. This can help you build strong relationships and show others that you care about them.
3. Show gratitude and appreciation. Acknowledge the good things that others do for you and let them know that you are thankful for their help and support.
4. Help others without expecting anything in return. Look for ways to lend a hand or make someone's day a little bit brighter, even if it's just in a small way.
5. Be patient and forgiving. Avoid judging others harshly and try to give them the benefit of the doubt. Remember that everyone makes mistakes and that we all need a little understanding and compassion from time to time.
Simplify. Simplify all

Less truly is more. I can't stress this enough. Do less, own less = make room for your truly important things in life. The less you do, the more you can allow it to express itself. The telephone line is not always occupied, so you give life the chance to get to work for you. Keep things simple and do the most important things today. Known as ‘Wu Wei’ and the art of inaction, making life work for you. Practical tip: don't aim for 'more' but for 'less'. Simplify.
Dial down on the ego

Take care of yourself and your inner circle first. But keep in mind: by helping others, you help yourself. It is not zero-sum. Less me, more we: consistently serve society instead of gratifying the ego hunger of your smaller self. A migration from FFA (fame, fortune, applause) to JPF (joy, peace, freedom).

If you want to lose your shackles of self:
1. Develop the unity mentality. See the connection between all around you: you are not in the world, the world is in you. Fun fact: you are made out of the same material as planets. If you are up for it, start this spiritual road with the story of the Bhagavad Gita.
2. Self-realization. You cannot come to know your purpose and what you are meant to do unless you first know yourself. Get outside your comfort zone. Self-mastery. Don't be a creature of complacency, complacency is like a disease. Nature does not intend you to sit idle.
3. Personal heroism. Become a risk taker. A spiritual warrior. You can't go to third base, with one foot on second. See the sacred in the ordinary. Practice dying while still alive.
4. Consistently empower your holiness. Being holy is all about being whole. It is to act with integrity and character power. Do what's right and justly, and help others. Make life your prayer. Be humble.
5. The Gandhi factor: become a force of good. See yourself as a divine instrument, here to touch the lives of others. To help others, you must first help yourself and mine your inner gifts. If you want to lead a country, you first must lead yourself.
6. Practice humility. Humility means recognizing your own limitations and imperfections and being open to learning and growing from others. Instead of trying to be the center of attention or always needing to be right, focus on serving others and being a good listener.
7. Cultivate empathy. Empathy means being able to understand and share the feelings of others. By taking the time to see things from others' perspectives and truly listening to their experiences, you can learn to let go of your own ego and focus on what's best for the people around you.
8. Reflect on your motivations. Ask yourself why you do the things you do and what you're trying to achieve. If your actions are driven by a need for validation or recognition, it's a sign that your ego is in control. Instead, try to focus on making positive contributions and helping others, rather than seeking attention or praise.
9. Practice mindfulness. Mindfulness means being present in the moment and focusing on your thoughts and actions without judgment. By being mindful, you can become more aware of your own ego and learn to let go of the need to control or impress others.
10. Seek feedback from others. Ask for honest feedback from people you trust and be open to hearing what they have to say. This can help you gain a better understanding of how your ego is impacting your relationships and give you the opportunity to make changes for the better.
11. Let go of your need for perfection. Perfectionism is often driven by the ego and can lead to unnecessary stress and disappointment. Instead of striving for perfection, focus on doing your best and being kind to yourself when things don't go as planned.
12. Be open to change and new ideas. The ego often resists change and clings to familiar ways of doing things. By being open to new ideas and perspectives, you can let go of the need to control every aspect of your life and be more flexible and adaptable.
13. Don't take yourself too seriously. The ego often leads us to take ourselves too seriously and take offense at things that aren't a big deal. Try to lighten up and see the humor in situations, and remember that you're not always right and it's okay to be wrong sometimes.
14. Practice gratitude. Gratitude helps to shift our focus from our own ego and problems to the things we are thankful for. By regularly expressing gratitude, you can let go of the need to constantly compare yourself to others and focus on the good things in your life.
15. Seek help when you need it. Sometimes, the ego can prevent us from asking for help or admitting when we need support. If you're struggling to dial down your ego, consider seeking help from a therapist or counselor who can provide guidance and support.
16. Don't take things personally. The ego can often make us take things personally and feel hurt or angry when someone says or does something that we don't like. Instead of reacting emotionally, try to take a step back and see the situation from a more objective perspective.
17. Be willing to admit when you're wrong. The ego often leads us to defend ourselves and our actions, even when we know we're in the wrong. By being willing to admit when you're wrong and apologizing, you can let go of your ego and show others that you value their feelings and opinions.
18. Don't try to control others. The ego often leads us to try to control others and their actions, but this is rarely effective and can damage our relationships. Instead, focus on controlling your own actions and reactions and let others make their own decisions.
19. Be compassionate and understanding. The ego often makes us judgmental and critical of others, but compassion and understanding can help us let go of those negative tendencies. By showing compassion and empathy to others, you can let go of your ego and connect with others on a deeper level.
20. Remember that you're not better than anyone else. The ego often leads us to believe that we are superior to others, but this is not true. We are all equal and deserving of respect and kindness. By remembering this, you can let go of your ego and treat others with the same respect and compassion that you would like to receive.
Learn – earn – return

"Learn, earn, return" is a phrase that is often used to describe a philosophy of education and personal development. The idea is that by investing in yourself and learning new skills, you can increase your earning potential and eventually use that increased income to give back to your community or to support causes you care about. This approach to education and career development emphasizes the importance of not only achieving personal success, but also using that success to make a positive impact on the world.

Each one, teach one. If you teach, you learn twice. In other words: the teacher learns the most. Find your topic, and teach to those around you. Teaching is the highest form of art.

Explaining complex materials in simple terms is true mastery. So to test your understanding, follow Einstein’s lead: if you can't explain it simply, you don't understand it well enough. The lessons you teach are the life you live. Times have changed, and society evolves at a pace never shown before. We now accept the fact that learning is a lifelong process of keeping abreast of change. And the most pressing task is to teach people how to learn. Become a teacher, and create value for yourself and others.
Develop a mentality of abundance

Develop an abundance conscience: an attitude of gratitude combined with giving. Get away from the Midas mentality (more me), abundance must circulate (more we). Move from all-for-one to one-for-all. The more you give, the more you receive.

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Concentrate your mind on the true values that feed your core (dharma, karma, family, etc.). Work on the four interior empires: heart, soul, mind, and health. You will otherwise always remain in hunting mode. Material objects are fleeting, but not sustaining your soul because as soon as you have it you will concentrate on the next one.

Developing a mentality of abundance is all about shifting your mindset from one of scarcity or lack to one of abundance and possibility. Here are a few steps you can take to cultivate this mindset:
1. Focus on abundance in all areas of your life, not just money. This can mean having an abundance of time, love, relationships, health, or anything else that is important to you.
2. Let go of the need to compete with others. A mentality of abundance means believing that there is enough success to go around, and that you don't need to compete with others to achieve it.
3. Practice generosity. When you give to others, you create abundance in your own life. This can be in the form of money, time, or other resources.
4. Take responsibility for creating abundance in your own life. A mentality of abundance means believing that you have the power to create the life you want, and taking action to make it happen.
5. Start by recognizing and challenging any limiting beliefs you may have. Do you believe that there is not enough success, love, or wealth to go around? These beliefs can hold you back and prevent you from achieving your goals.
6. Practice gratitude on a daily basis. This can help you to focus on the good things in your life and to let go of any feelings of lack or scarcity.
7. Take action to support your beliefs. If you believe that there is plenty of success to go around, start taking steps to create it for yourself and others.
8. Surround yourself with people who have a mentality of abundance. This can help to reinforce your own beliefs and can also provide support and encouragement on your journey.
9. Be open to new opportunities and possibilities. A mentality of abundance means believing that there are always more opportunities out there, and being willing to take risks and try new things.
Pain and fear mark borders

Pain can guide you, but you need to build up grit. Consistency is how you will build grit. Never skip twice.

The word "passion" is derived from the Latin word "pati," which means "to suffer." This connection to pain is often interpreted as meaning that passion requires sacrifice or struggle in order to be achieved. While it is true that pursuing a passion can sometimes involve challenges and difficult moments, it is not necessarily true that pain is a necessary part of the process.

Grit, on the other hand, is a trait that is often associated with perseverance and determination. It is the ability to continue working towards a goal despite challenges or setbacks. Consistency is one way to build grit, but it is not the only way. Other ways to develop grit include setting clear goals, seeking feedback and support, and staying motivated even when things are tough.

It is also important to remember that not skipping twice is not a rule that applies to everyone. Everyone is different and what works for one person may not work for another. It is important to find a balance that works for you and to be flexible and adaptable in order to achieve your goals.
Live by a high moral blueprint

Living by a high moral blueprint means following a set of principles or values that guide your actions and decisions. These principles can be based on your personal beliefs or on a code of ethics that you choose to follow. A high moral blueprint can help you to make choices that are fair, honest, and compassionate, and can also help you to avoid actions that may harm others or yourself.

To live by a high moral blueprint, you can start by identifying the values and principles that are most important to you. This may involve reflecting on your beliefs and experiences, and considering what you consider to be right and wrong. You can then use these values and principles to guide your actions and decisions, and to hold yourself accountable to a high standard of behavior.

It is also important to remember that a high moral blueprint is not something that is set in stone. Your values and principles may evolve and change over time, and it is up to you to continue to reflect on and update your moral blueprint as needed.

Here is an example of a high moral blueprint:
1. I will always act with integrity and honesty, even when it is difficult.
2. I will treat others with respect and compassion, regardless of their background or beliefs.
3. I will use my talents and resources to help others and to make the world a better place.
4. I will take responsibility for my actions and choices, and will always strive to do the right thing.
5. I will seek to understand and learn from others and will be open to new ideas and perspectives.
6. I will strive to be fair and just in all of my interactions, and will always seek to avoid harming others.
7. I will be accountable to myself and to others and will hold myself to a high standard of moral behavior.
Make honesty your go-to

Making honesty your go-to means that you prioritize honesty in all of your actions and interactions. This means being truthful, transparent, and sincere in your words and actions, and avoiding deception or manipulation. Here are a few ways to make honesty your go-to:
1. Practice self-awareness. Take the time to reflect on your own thoughts and actions, and consider whether they align with your values and principles.
2. Communicate openly and honestly. Be transparent and sincere in your interactions with others, and avoid withholding information or being deceptive.
3. Own up to your mistakes. If you make a mistake, admit it and take responsibility for it. This shows that you are honest and accountable.
4. Be consistent. Consistency is key when it comes to honesty. If you are consistently honest in your words and actions, others will learn to trust and believe you.
5. Seek feedback and support. If you are struggling to be honest, reach out to others for feedback and support. This can help you to stay on track and to continue making honesty your go-to.
Remember, making honesty your go-to takes time and effort. It is not always easy, but it is worth it. Honest communication and behavior can improve your relationships, build trust, and create a positive impact on the world around you.

Honesty acts as a bridge, inward and outward. This might be your hardest challenge.
Journal

Journal, journal, journal. Don't know what to write?
1. Easy: write down one thing you are grateful for each day that is the cheapest possible therapy ever.
2. Easy: write down what gives you energy (seek more) and what consumes your energy (avoid more).
3. Easy: Write down your goals for the day.
4. Difficult: reflect like a Navy Seal. Write down your intention (what do I want), then reflect (did I get it), analyze (why not, get to the root problem), and create improvement (what to do or not to do next time).
5. Very difficult: history teaches us that 100 years from now some of the assumptions you believed will turn out to be wrong. A good question to ask yourself today is "What might I be wrong about?"
More in later sessions journaling.
Intention > output

The purpose is not to solve problems, as the universe has no problems. You are not here to save the world in some distant future with a grandiose plan, the universe will take care of that, you are here to solve the challenge presented by the universe at this moment with the utmost love and spirit you can ('magic'). You can solve a personal challenge or a challenge experienced by somebody else. Let your love for yourself and others guide you in your actions.
Nurture loving relationships

We are all connected to the same eternal source. We are here for the human experience, so participate with others. Cherish and love the people around you. Don't sacrifice the big things in life for the small things in life. After a long personal journey inwards, some parental advice as well: the best thing you can give your children is yourself. The same concept might apply to other people around you as well.
Feed and condition your mind

Jim Rohn said, “Every day, you have to stand guard at the door of your mind.” Why? Because what you let into your mind – your beliefs – creates the meaning that you give to everything else in life. What are you thinking about most often? What you feed your mind is what you become. As Tony says, where focus goes, energy flows. Put your focus on feeding your mind nutritious content and you’ll give it the fuel it needs to learn how to feel happy.

To feed your mind, read at least 30 minutes a day of something substantive. Social media doesn’t count. Try reading biographies of people who have achieved amazing things or books about science and history. You should be challenged and excited by what you’re consuming. Not much of a reader? Try audio books or even podcasts to provide the same level of brain nutrition. This will help immensely as you explore how to make yourself feel happy.
Strengthen your body daily

No matter how much you feed your mind, it’s difficult to make an actual change in your life and discover how to feel happy if your body is telling you it’s unhealthy. Your mind and body are one unit. Whether you feel uncertain or fantastic, your physiology changes. When you are feeling physically strong and powerful, your mind follows suit.

To strengthen your body, adopt a sustainable, healthy diet that incorporates whole grains and the nutrients you need for energy and cuts out sugars and additives that harm your health. Aim for five days a week minimum of exercise. Push yourself so your heart is racing for at least 10 minutes to get the full cardiovascular benefit. Aside from exercise, create a daily ritual to help make you strong. Tony uses a cold plunge. Your daily ritual might be a session of yoga, time in the sauna or light weightlifting.
Get a role model

Whether we’re seeking career success or inner happiness, role models and mentors can show us the right path. As Jim Rohn often said, “Success breeds clues.” Find someone who has overcome obstacles to feeling happy or think of someone you admire who is wildly happy. What mindsets or empowering beliefs do they have that allow them to feel happy? You might also consider getting a Results Coach who can provide you with tips on how to feel happy as well as how to increase fulfillment in your personal and professional life.

Tony Robbins is an example of a role model who learned how to feel happy. He came up with the concepts behind 5 to Thrive after he’d been kicked out of his house by his angry mother on Christmas Eve. He was still in high school, had no money and going home was no longer an option. An action plan for feeling happy was born, one that Tony has used in his own life and has expanded on over the years.
Elevate your peer group

Many of us stay around people who are at our level of happiness or below it, partly because it makes us feel good about ourselves and partly because they don’t present a challenge. When we stay around people who are comfortable, there’s no impetus to grow. As Tony says, who you spend time with is who you become.

If you hang around people who are consistently negative and only look at the downsides of life, chances are you will, too. Opt to surround yourself with those who have an abundance mindset instead and see how much easier it is to find ways to feel happy. You need to be around people who do what you want to be doing. If you keep putting yourself there, something positive will happen. If you want to know how to feel happy, spend time with others who share your passions or who can teach you something new. You should also work on your ability to make new and meaningful connections. The more people you connect with, the more likely you are to find how to feel happy.
Give more than you expect to receive

Giving will change your state of mind in ways you can only imagine. In fact, Tony says that giving without expecting anything in return and just trying to be a blessing in the lives of everyone you meet will give you the energy to do the previous four things and will inevitably lead to being happy.

No matter how bad things may seem, find someone who’s worse off than you and help them. Even if you can’t give a lot of money, there are plenty of ways you can make a contribution. You can give them food, have a conversation or help them solve a problem. Whether it’s large or small, offer something to others and don’t expect anything in return. Remember: the secret to living is giving. When you’re grateful for what you have and always on the lookout for how you can improve someone else’s life, you’ve truly discovered how to feel happy.
Spend more time outdoors

Living near green spaces and regular exposure to fresh air is associated with a better mindset and is one of the ways to feel happy. Sunlight produces vitamin D, which is important to fight depression, and nature sparks curiosity and wonder.

Schedule time to spend outdoors. You should enjoy nature with your family and friends as well as spend time alone outdoors to process thoughts and reconnect with yourself. Regular exposure to fresh air, green grass and the sounds of water is a sure path to how to feel happy.
Get plenty of sleep

When we’re exhausted, we may give up on figuring out how to feel happy – we just want to zone out in front of the TV or go to bed. Feeling happy is much easier when you’re well-rested and able to face the day with optimism and energy. If you have trouble sleeping or if you’re so overcommitted that you don’t take the time for seven to eight hours of sleep per night, you need to make some changes.

Create some healthy habits that help you power down in the evening and prepare your brain and body for sleep. Say no to commitments that keep you from adequate rest. Turn off electronics an hour before bedtime and read by a dim light instead of watching TV or scrolling Facebook. Try aromatherapy or play relaxing music or white noise to help you fall asleep. When you get quality sleep, learning how to feel happy becomes easier.
Listen to upbeat music

Music activates the brain’s reward system and is one of the most powerful ways to feel happy. Music can act as medicine, a mood enhancer and a powerful form of self-expression. Slip on your headphones and crank up an upbeat playlist. You can do this while you work out, as you’re making dinner or anytime you’re struggling with your mood or feel like your world is spinning out of control.
Practice letting go

One reason so many people struggle with how to feel happy is the inability to let go. Whether you can’t let go of traumatic experiences in the past or can’t let go of an imagined slight from a co-worker, holding on to negativity leads to unhappiness. Identify emotional patterns that are preventing you from letting go and feeling happy, then make a conscious effort to change those patterns.

Have you experienced a life event that makes you wonder how to make yourself feel happy again? Remember that blame is a recipe for unhappiness. Whether you blame your ex or yourself for the end of your relationship, blame a higher power for letting your loved one die or blame your former boss for firing you, letting go of that blame and finding a way to forgive is the key to how to feel happy.
Practice self-care

Those who continually do for others without taking care of their own needs often end up wondering how to feel happy. Practicing self-care on a daily basis is the key to how to feel happier because we cannot live a full life unless we treat ourselves well.

Take some time every day to do nice things for yourself. It can be as little as getting an espresso at your favorite café or taking a 30-minute nap before going out to meet friends. Then, schedule bigger self-care activities like massages or vacations on a weekly or monthly basis. When you start taking care of yourself, you’ll find yourself feeling happy and better able to help others.
Disconnect from social media

Though it has many positive uses, social media can hurt you and keep you from discovering how to feel happy, especially if you’ve just been through a break-up or divorce. Whether you are constantly checking your ex’s status on Facebook or dwelling on pictures of all the other people who look happier than you, staying away from social media when you feel sad or are looking for ways to feel happy can help you improve your mood.
Avoid blame

Blame is a recipe of unhappiness and staying stuck in negative feelings. Whether you blame your ex or yourself for the end of your relationship, blame a higher power for letting your loved one die or blame your former boss for firing you, letting go of that blame and finding a way to forgive is the key to how to feel happy.
Find activities that keep you busy

Being too idle can lead to overthinking and rumination. When you’re trying to learn how to feel happy, you may find it difficult to get interested in things you used to love. However, the more you isolate yourself and avoid activities, the more you risk falling into a depression. Stay busy with hobbies you used to enjoy and you’ll eventually find they start bringing you happiness again.
Realize that life happens for you

It’s easy to fall into a victim mentality when you see life as a series of negative events that happen to you. Change your mindset: Life is happening for you, not to you. Every situation in your life happens for a reason and is a stepping stone to the next level of growth.
Connect with others

Life takes on more meaning when you connect and share experiences with people. This may be more difficult for introverts or those who experience social anxiety; however, it’s important to put yourself out there and form new connections as well as create deeper connections with loved ones already in your life. Something as simple as a half hour lunch with someone you enjoy talking to is one of the easiest ways to feel happy and enrich your life.
Plan a fun activity

You may not be able to get in the car and take that day trip or hit the beach right now – but even penciling it into your calendar can boost your mood. Part of how to feel happy is having things to look forward to, so go ahead and plan that weekend getaway or friend’s birthday party, even if it’s not happening for weeks.
Write it down

Writing helps to process emotions. Whether you’ve had a particular experience that’s left you wondering how to feel happy, like a break-up, or you’ve just been feeling down, write it out. You may discover a new perspective or a solution you never thought of before. As another exercise, write down five things you’re grateful for. The benefits of adopting an attitude of gratitude are proven.
Final friendly reminder: migrate from all-for-one to one-for-all mindset.

Legendary battle in My Hero Academia between All-for-One and One-for-All. Source: https://media.comicbook.com/2020/06/my-hero-academia-all-might-vs-all-for-one-1224084-1280x0.jpeg

Conclusion

In conclusion, 1.5 a bit about happiness highlights that true happiness is found within ourselves and can be cultivated through attention, resilience, positivity and altruism. It also emphasizes the importance of understanding how money and happiness are related and how to effectively spend money to increase fulfillment and happiness. Remember that a better world starts in your head and that you have the power to create your own happiness through actions such as doing what you love, adopting a gratitude mindset and giving to others. As you move on to the next chapter, keep in mind the importance of making positive decisions and taking action towards creating a happier and more fulfilling life for yourself.

Next chapter: the power of decisions and movement: Just start. But how?

Quiz

What percentage of long-term happiness can be derived from one's circumstances according to a Harvard study?

A) 10%

B) 25%

C) 50%

D) 75%

Explanation: The correct answer is A) 10%. The study shows that only 10 percent of long-term happiness can be derived from one's circumstances, meaning that 90% of happiness lies within oneself.
According to Sonja Lyubomirsky, a well-known happiness scientist, what percentage of one's happiness is fixed at birth?

A) 10%

B) 25%

C) 50%

D) 75%

Explanation: The correct answer is C) 50%. Lyubomirsky established that about 50 percent of one's happiness is fixed at birth.
What are the four circuits of happiness according to Richard Davidson?

A) Attention, Resilience, Positivity, Altruism

B) Mindfulness, Self-care, Gratitude, Empathy

C) Success, Wealth, Power, Fame

D) Love, Friendship, Family, Community

Explanation: The correct answer is A) Attention, Resilience, Positivity, Altruism. Davidson states that these four circuits are responsible for happiness: the ability to maintain focus, the ability to recover quickly from negative moods, the ability to create and nurture positive emotions and thoughts, and the ability to give unconditionally.
According to Harvard psychology professor Tal Ben-Sahar, what are the four mindsets or archetypes concerning life attitudes and the pursuit of happiness?

A) Balance, Growth, Success, Wealth

B) Mindfulness, Self-care, Gratitude, Empathy

C) Love, Friendship, Family, Community

D) Profit, Now, Future, Horizon

Explanation: The correct answer is D) Profit, Now, Future, Horizon. Ben-Sahar distinguishes four mindsets or archetypes concerning life attitudes and the pursuit of happiness based on whether one is chasing profits and, if so, which ones.
According to Rick Hanson, what is the first step in enhancing a positive experience?

A) Installing the positive experience

B) Overwriting a negative memory with a positive experience

C) Having a positive experience

D) Enhancing the experience and enriching it

Explanation: The correct answer is C) Having a positive experience. Hanson states that the first step in enhancing a positive experience is to have a positive experience, whether it be small or big.
What is one way to cultivate positive relationships?

A) Surround yourself with negative people

B) Build strong and healthy relationships

C) Avoid building relationships altogether

D) Only associate with people who have the same interests as you

Answer: B) Build strong and healthy relationships Explanation: Surrounding yourself with supportive and positive people can help you feel more fulfilled and happy. Building strong and healthy relationships involves actively putting in effort to connect with others and developing trust, respect, and understanding.
What is one way to practice gratitude?

A) Focusing on what you lack

B) Complaining about your circumstances

C) Comparing yourself to others

D) Focusing on what you have

Answer: D) Focusing on what you have Explanation: Focusing on what you have, rather than what you lack, can help you feel more content and satisfied with your life. This might involve keeping a gratitude journal or simply taking time each day to reflect on the things you are thankful for.
How can you be kind to yourself and others?

A) Treat yourself and others with disrespect and disregard

B) Be patient and forgiving when things don't go as planned

C) Criticize and blame yourself and others when things go wrong

D) Hold grudges and dwell on negative feelings

Answer: B) Be patient and forgiving when things don't go as planned Explanation: Treating yourself and others with respect, compassion, and understanding can help create positive and fulfilling relationships. This might involve being patient and forgiving when things don't go as planned, rather than criticizing or blaming yourself or others.
What is one way to take time for yourself?

A) Overcommit to activities and responsibilities

B) Neglect your own needs and well-being

C) Set aside time for rest, relaxation, and self-care

D) Prioritize others' needs above your own

Answer: C) Set aside time for rest, relaxation, and self-care Explanation: It's important to make time for rest, relaxation, and self-care in order to recharge and prioritize your well-being. This might involve activities like reading, going for a walk, or taking a relaxing bath.
What is one way to practice forgiveness?

A) Holding grudges and dwelling on negative feelings

B) Letting go of resentment and finding peace

C) Blaming and criticizing others

D) Refusing to move forward and forgive

Answer: B) Letting go of resentment and finding peace Explanation: Holding grudges and dwelling on negative feelings can weigh you down and prevent you from moving forward. Practice forgiveness and letting go of resentment in order to find peace and happiness. This might involve actively working to let go of negative feelings and finding ways to move forward and forgive those who have caused harm.

Food for thought

Reflect on the idea that only 10% of long-term happiness is derived from circumstances, with the remaining 90% coming from within yourself. How does this shift your perspective on the role of external factors in your happiness?
Consider the four circuits of happiness (attention, resilience, positivity, and altruism) and which ones you feel strongest in and which ones you may want to focus on developing.
Reflect on the four archetypes of happiness (balancing the now with the future, chasing profits, etc.) and which one aligns most with your current mindset and which one you strive to embody.
Think about how you can incorporate the practice of "be home" into your daily life to enhance positive experiences and install them into your mind and heart.
Consider how you can make your own happiness by following the tips provided such as doing what you love, adopting a gratitude mindset and spending money on experiences and giving to others.
How do you define happiness in your own life? Are there certain experiences or actions that bring you a sense of fulfillment and contentment?
How do you think society's definition of happiness compares to your own? Are there societal pressures or expectations that influence your idea of happiness?
How do you think the principles outlined in this chapter could be applied in different areas of your life, such as work or relationships? Are there any that you think would be particularly challenging to implement?
How do you think the concept of a "high moral blueprint" could be applied in a professional setting? How could it impact decision-making and interactions with colleagues?
How do you think the idea of "making honesty your go-to" could be applied in both personal and professional relationships? How do you think it could improve communication and trust?
Reflect on the idea of "journaling" and how it can be used for self-reflection and goal-setting. Are there any specific journaling techniques or prompts that you would like to try in your own practice?
Consider the concept of the "positivity ratio" and how it can affect overall well-being and happiness. Are there specific actions you can take to increase your own positivity ratio?
How do you think the idea of "buying happiness" applies to your own life? Are there certain material possessions or experiences that bring you a sense of joy or fulfillment?
Research the concept of "flow state" and how it relates to happiness and fulfillment. How can individuals enter a flow state and what are the benefits of doing so?
Explore the idea of "self-actualization" and how it relates to achieving personal fulfillment. What are some common obstacles that prevent individuals from reaching their full potential, and how can they overcome these obstacles?
Investigate the concept of "positive psychology" and its impact on mental health and well-being. How can individuals use positive psychology techniques to improve their mood and overall well-being?
Learn about the concept of "eudaimonia" and how it relates to happiness and fulfillment. What are some of the key principles of eudaimonia and how can individuals apply them in their daily lives?
Study the relationship between mindfulness and happiness. How can individuals use mindfulness techniques to improve their mental well-being and overall happiness?
Research the impact of social connections on happiness and well-being. What are some ways individuals can cultivate positive social connections and how do these connections contribute to overall happiness?
Investigate the concept of "gratitude" and its impact on happiness and well-being. How can individuals cultivate a sense of gratitude in their lives and what are the benefits of doing so?
Study the relationship between exercise and happiness. How does physical activity impact mental well-being and how can individuals integrate exercise into their daily lives to improve their mood and overall happiness?
Explore the concept of "purpose" and its relationship to happiness and fulfillment. How can individuals find their purpose in life and what are the benefits of having a sense of purpose?

Expand Your Understanding

James Allen's "As a Man Thinketh"
"The Science of Getting Rich."
“The How of Happiness” by Sonja Lyubomirsky - A comprehensive guide on the science of happiness and practical strategies for increasing joy and fulfillment in daily life.
“The Happiness Advantage” by Shawn Achor - An exploration of the connection between happiness and success, and how prioritizing well-being can lead to greater success in all areas of life.
"The Power of Positive Thinking" by Norman Vincent Peale. This classic book explores the power of positive thinking and how it can help individuals achieve their goals and live a happier life. https://www.amazon.com/Power-Positive-Thinking-Norman-Vincent/dp/0451166289
"Happiness: A Guide to Developing Life's Most Important Skill" Matthieu Ricard - A book that examines the nature of happiness and provides practical advice for cultivating inner joy and well-being.
"The Art of Happiness" by Dalai Lama and Howard Cutler. This book provides a unique perspective on happiness from a spiritual leader, and offers practical advice for living a happier life. https://www.amazon.com/Art-Happiness-Dalai-Lama/dp/1439195412
"Happier: Learn the Secrets to Daily Joy and Lasting Fulfillment" by Tal Ben-Shahar. This book provides a scientific approach to happiness and offers practical strategies for living a happier life. https://www.amazon.com/Happier-Secrets-Daily-Lasting-Fulfillment/dp/0307351897
"Positive Psychology: The Science of Happiness and Human Strengths" by C.R. Snyder and Shane J. Lopez. This book provides an overview of the field of positive psychology and offers research-based strategies for increasing happiness and well-being. https://www.amazon.com/Positive-Psychology-Happiness-Human-Strengths/dp/0805850703
"The Happiness Hypothesis: Finding Modern Truth in Ancient Wisdom" by Jonathan Haidt. This book examines the wisdom of the ancients and its relevance to modern life, including the pursuit of happiness https://www.amazon.com/Happiness-Hypothesis-Finding-Modern-Ancient

How to apply this in your life today?

Every person has a natural desire to be happy. That's why it's important to first clearly define what we mean by happiness. In order to achieve happiness, we must first understand what we mean by a happy life. Write down your definition of a happy life. What are your conditions for feeling happy? And what does success mean to you?
1. What is your definition of success?
2. What is your definition of happiness?
3. When do you feel happy? What brings you joy?
These questions are like a roadmap to finding true contentment. It's time to put pen to paper and uncover what success and happiness really mean to you.
2. Which archetype of happiness do you have?
Start a gratitude journal. Every day, write down at least one thing you are grateful for. This simple task can help shift your focus from negative thoughts to positive ones, and can improve your overall sense of well-being.
Practice honesty in your interactions with others. This means being transparent, sincere and truthful in your words and actions. Take the time to reflect on your thoughts and actions and ask yourself if they align with your values and principles. Own up to your mistakes and admit when you are wrong. Prioritizing honesty can help build trust and improve relationships.
Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to a deep dive into the mind, where we explore our thoughts, feelings and emotions. Today, we're going to reflect on our current situation and answer some hard-hitting questions.
1. What is making you absolutely elated and content right now?
2. What aspect of your daily life is not quite up to your standards?
3. What changes would you like to see and how would you go about making them happen?
These questions can be difficult to answer, but fear not my friends, for this is an opportunity for self-discovery and growth. So buckle up and let's get introspective!